In a very timely fashion, Asher brought home the Jump Rope For Heart brochure and bookmark this week. The bookmark is "Very special because it helps to raise money for a girl who wasn't so healthy and now she is. And you can win prizes for raising money."
On the one hand, YES! We support the American Heart Association! They research stuff that could eventually make some family not have to have our problems and much worse...
On the other hand, NO EFFING WAY! We are not participating. We are not donating, we need all of the money and mental energy we have to pay for OUR problem right now. I'm taking donations and suggestions for the what-to-do-for-six-weeks-post-op-of-no-collision-activity-when-we-aren't-allowed-to-jump-rope. I don't want Asher to somehow end up the poster boy for his school about this situation before it even happens. I don't want his situation to become something we have to share with school right now, and I am afraid it might be.
On the other hand, MAYBE. Maybe it would be a good way for him not to feel like he is the only one going through this. Maybe he would not feel isolated, or alone, and maybe it would help his friends not feel like something is so different about him.
On the other hand maybe next year. After. After it is over. After he is healed and we are healed.
But in the meantime. What does he really understand? Prizes. I got a bookmark. He has no idea what it will mean FOR HIM, and he doesn't need to yet. We worry enough for him, he doesn't need to.
Happymom,
I don't care if you were trying to be sweet, and you don't fool me, I know you are the same person from last year and the year before. You misunderstand my posts every time because you don't know me. And your comments are hurtful and not helpful. And, I'm not writing for you. I'm writing for me. I'm working it out for me.
I SEE your point. Did you miss the part about where I considered how JRFH was HELPFUL?
You are showing that you do not understand seeing other perspectives, and the complexity of people's situations and emotions.
I'm glad you are a happy mom. If you knew me, you would know that I am too.
So leave me alone.